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[passedthedoor]

DELETED POST RESTORED; FILTERED TO DARCY - REROUTED TO FRIENDS & GIRLS (INCLUDING EDDIE)
So, it's been a while for me - since I've dated anybody, asked anybody out, the whole nine. It's kind of a little bit of a long story, truth be told but very complicated past over here.

Still.

Advice on the best way to ask out someone who you have a really good friendship with? Because the consensus is to feel it out and to me, that means think it out a little too.

EDDIE;
I saw Richie's back - I'm glad that he's all good. You doing all right after that scare?

INNER THOUGHT MATRIX ACTIVATED:

I was a little worried about you there for a second.

And I was just thinking that I was kind of missing hanging out with you, but it really was the worst timing so I held back in saying anything. But now that he's back can't hurt, assuming you're settling back down, anyway.

ROOMMIE FILTER;
Movie and Chinese food or something tomorrow, boys?

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private video: darcy/sally; re-directed as private video: women on this post;

[totalmilf]

( Darcy makes a show of stretching and cracking her knuckles before she smiles. )

Okay, I'm pretty friggen rusty myself these days, honey, so bear with me. It's been a while for me, too. But, lucky for you, my last boyfriend and my ex-husband were both my best friends before we went into relationships, so I actually have experience in this.

First things first: establish whether or not you think he might be interested. If you think that he might be, proceed to step two. If you're not feeling at least marginally confident or you have no idea at all, you gotta kinda hang out at this step for a while.

Step two: Flirt. Openly. It'll help you gauge where he's at a little more clearly and it's easy to play it off like you're just joking around if you play your cards right, which means it's easy to sweep it under the rug if the response is not in your favor. If you're still feeling pretty confident after this step, proceed to step three.

Step three: Ask them out. It doesn't have to be "hey will you be my boyfriend" or anything, just invite him out for drinks or over to your place for a movie night or something and see how that goes. If it goes well, keep asking him out. Eventually, he's either going to take the hint and be on board or he'll start suggesting less intimate-seeming plans and you'll have a hint that you need to back off.

But uh...what's the complicated past, if you don't mind my asking? I mean, if you think it's important to know to reshape my advice because the complicated past makes one or more of the steps above not doable, for whatever reason.

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[passedthedoor]

Okay, the fact that you can break it down into three steps like that...color me impressed.

[Sally can't help but grin - she already can feel it, she can definitely get along with Darcy.]

I'm definitely on step one, but we have hung out just the two of us a few times, and we - his friends, him, and me - had a taco Tuesday together too. So some things to kind of go off of, he does like hanging out with me, at the very least?

If you'd gotten here a little earlier you'd have gotten the unfortunate pleasure of seeing it, potentially. I don't mind you asking, at least I get to be in control of telling it, anyway.

[Sally pauses and then takes a breath.]

I was murdered by my fiance. So anybody I've seen since, which have been quite a while too, were seen with barriers and things that kept us kind of apart and from investing very much.

private darcy/sally;

[totalmilf]

( Laughing a little, Darcy playfully preens for a moment before responding. )

I do what I can, sweetie. I do what I can.

That's a decent start. I don't know, I think you could probably try step two, just...you know, cautiously and maybe a little more playful than serious just to see how he takes it.

( Though, when Sally explains her situation, Darcy's face falls. )

Oh, wow... Suddenly Dex cheating does not feel quite as bad... Yeah, so I can see how that might throw a wrench in the spokes, for sure. ...do you, like, feel okay trusting men, again?

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[passedthedoor]

[Sally smiles a little bit.]

Maybe I should, then. I've liked him for a fair bit now. And he is someone that I feel safe around, he's been really great friend to me, for starters, but he's just...the opposite of Danny - the murdering ex.

I definitely feel like the men I'm close to and know here I know I can trust, so I think so.

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[sanguinescry]

( Lydia hasn't really talked to Sally a ton, but she knows who she is, given she's over at Steve's apartment fairly often these days. Not that she spends a lot of time outside of Steve's bedroom, but that's neither here nor there.

Consider Lydia's interest piqued for gossip. )

Depends on the person you're setting your sights on, in my experience. Everyone is different. Who's the friend...?

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[passedthedoor]

Do you know Eddie?

in person;

[atypically]

[ When he sees that, Caleb yells from his bedroom, scrambling to his feet and yanking the door open. ]

Sally, yo! I can fucking see you talking to that Lydia girl. Did you mean to put his name out there like that?

in person;

[passedthedoor]

[Sally startles, jumping off of the couch and running into the corner with a rather loud curse.]

What?!

[Sally leans on the couch as she rubs her shin, face toward the bedroom.]

No, no, no I didn't - please tell me that you're fucking with me?

[Sally whines out]

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[sanguinescry]

Oh...no, not really. I'm sorry :(
Generically speaking, though? Maybe try to feel it out with a little subtle flirting and see how they react, to start?

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[passedthedoor]

It's Eddie.

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[passedthedoor]

I've liked him for a while now, but I've not bee sure how to proceed

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[ltbrownnoser]

( Ugh, twenty-first-century humans and their fascination with tying themselves down to other people. Sarah will never understand the appeal of this. )

I reckon it depends, darling. Are you looking for a shag or something more permanent?

text; first filter

[passedthedoor]

Err more toward the second, though without the like ahhhhhh-pressure connected to it.

text; first filter

[ltbrownnoser]

Ugh, I'm sorry my darling, I am not your girl for advice on that. Good luck though, yeah?

text;

[atypically]

FIRST FILTER;
I'm probably the last person you should be asking this question, but uh...I don't know, maybe frame it like it's just hanging out first and see how it goes?

ROOMIES;
Fuck yeah, I'm so down for this!

INTERNAL THOUGHT MATRIX ACTIVATED;

Just us or are you two lovesick assholes gonna invite dates and make me a fifth wheel?

text;

[passedthedoor]

FIRST;
You do have a boyfriend, I would remind you. And that seems to be the consensus.

ROOMIES;
I'm open to movie suggestions too, I literally have nothing in mind but it just sounds fun.

And I wasn't inviting anyone, but Steve you'd have to ask?

[atypically]

FIRST;
It took forever for us to get over that friends to something more hump, though, and it was super fucking awkward. You don't want my advice, trust me. I also had the benefit of being able to tell how he was feeling and I was still awkward as fuck, so...

ROOMIES;
I haven't seen a good comedy in a while...

Fuck's sake, I didn't send that...this stupid thing.

text;

[riskanalyst]

FIRST FILTER;
Oh geez...you're asking the wrong guy, Sal. I never dated a friend before. Marty and I weren't that close when we started going out and the handful of girls I dated before her in high school and college weren't really friends, either. That and the most recent dating I did was fucking twelve years ago, so I'm pretty far out of the loop these days. Sorry, I'm no fucking help.

[ Shit, he should probably add something supportive, right? He's never been very good at making friends; it's why he spent a lot of his life kind of alone after the Losers all scattered to the winds. ]

Good luck, though! Whoever it is, they're lucky to have you. Let me know if I can help and put in a good word or something.

SALLY;
Yeah, he's back. Scared the shit out of me, but yeah, he's good and I'm...you know, coming down off a two days-long panic attack. I'm hanging in haha

I'm sorry I worried you, though. You know you can text me any time, right? Hell, I probably could've done with the distraction, even if I wouldn't have been able to actually take you up on it while Bev, Stan, and I were trying to figure it all out.

private, eddie/bev;

[winterfires]

Oh my GOD, are you really

I love you. But you’re an idiot.

private, eddie/bev;

[riskanalyst]

Oh, holy shit...

[ Yeah, no, he was oblivious...but then he read up. ]

What do I fucking do?

text;

[passedthedoor]

FIRST; RESTORED FROM DELETION
It's okay, really. I'm sure that you're not as bad at advice as you think that you are, though, honestly. I think the filters are still acting up anyway, so no worries. I didn't mean to send this in the first place, or to as wide a group of people.

MESSAGE ALTERED:

Is there a reason why, though? Are you interested in dating at all being here?

I don't think you can really give this person a good word, unfortunately, but you're sweet.

EDDIE;
If you need a drink Sally delivers, just for the record.

It's okay, though, you were in the midst of it. Next time I'll keep that in mind, I knew Stan and Bev were there, though, and I didn't want to crowd you too bad.

text;

[riskanalyst]

Can we talk in person? I don't want this fucking thing going haywire in the middle of the conversation.

first filter;

[winterfires]

Honestly? Just do it. Guys are idiots that sometimes (a lot of the time) miss very obvious clues. Or they get hung up on shit that doesn’t even matter, and they’ll leave you waiting.

BEV - ALTERED FILTER TO FIRST;

[passedthedoor]

That's really direct! I mean, I get how blunt is sometimes needed, but do you think that everyone responds to that?

INNER THOUGHT MATRIX ACTIVATED:

Like Eddie, for example?

SALLY;

[winterfires]

No, you’re right, not everyone does.

Buuuuut Eddie doesn’t think you could possibly like him. That he’s too old, or something like that. I think there’s some hang up with the fact that he’s married back home, which is fair, but... Well. I think you both deserve to be happy.

[ Sorry not sorry, Eddie. ]

So, I think you can try the subtle route but don’t be surprised if you may need to be more direct.