( Darcy makes a show of stretching and cracking her knuckles before she smiles. )
Okay, I'm pretty friggen rusty myself these days, honey, so bear with me. It's been a while for me, too. But, lucky for you, my last boyfriend and my ex-husband were both my best friends before we went into relationships, so I actually have experience in this.
First things first: establish whether or not you think he might be interested. If you think that he might be, proceed to step two. If you're not feeling at least marginally confident or you have no idea at all, you gotta kinda hang out at this step for a while.
Step two: Flirt. Openly. It'll help you gauge where he's at a little more clearly and it's easy to play it off like you're just joking around if you play your cards right, which means it's easy to sweep it under the rug if the response is not in your favor. If you're still feeling pretty confident after this step, proceed to step three.
Step three: Ask them out. It doesn't have to be "hey will you be my boyfriend" or anything, just invite him out for drinks or over to your place for a movie night or something and see how that goes. If it goes well, keep asking him out. Eventually, he's either going to take the hint and be on board or he'll start suggesting less intimate-seeming plans and you'll have a hint that you need to back off.
But uh...what's the complicated past, if you don't mind my asking? I mean, if you think it's important to know to reshape my advice because the complicated past makes one or more of the steps above not doable, for whatever reason.
private video: darcy/sally; re-directed as private video: women on this post;
Okay, I'm pretty friggen rusty myself these days, honey, so bear with me. It's been a while for me, too. But, lucky for you, my last boyfriend and my ex-husband were both my best friends before we went into relationships, so I actually have experience in this.
First things first: establish whether or not you think he might be interested. If you think that he might be, proceed to step two. If you're not feeling at least marginally confident or you have no idea at all, you gotta kinda hang out at this step for a while.
Step two: Flirt. Openly. It'll help you gauge where he's at a little more clearly and it's easy to play it off like you're just joking around if you play your cards right, which means it's easy to sweep it under the rug if the response is not in your favor. If you're still feeling pretty confident after this step, proceed to step three.
Step three: Ask them out. It doesn't have to be "hey will you be my boyfriend" or anything, just invite him out for drinks or over to your place for a movie night or something and see how that goes. If it goes well, keep asking him out. Eventually, he's either going to take the hint and be on board or he'll start suggesting less intimate-seeming plans and you'll have a hint that you need to back off.
But uh...what's the complicated past, if you don't mind my asking? I mean, if you think it's important to know to reshape my advice because the complicated past makes one or more of the steps above not doable, for whatever reason.